Category: the Rant Board
Recently, I have found out that one of my closest, no, scratch that, my absolute, closest friend, whom I trusted more than pretty much everyone else, is and was lieing for years. Most of what I knew about her was based on lies. She spoke badly behind my back and attempted to divide me and another friend, then lied about the fact when there were logs to the contrary! This is the second or third time that she's lied to me and I've blocked her, more than likely perminently. I've become so much more sinical now. I can't trust anyone weather I've known them online or in real life. They will get so far in, see all the parts of me, the parts I wanted never to show to anyone, and they will use my own vulnerabilities against me. Trust is abstract and now, it's not worth anything
Aw man ... that makes me sad, honestly. Personally I have made this experience many, many times myself, and it is ashame that trust iss used in such bad way. I'm sorry for ya.
That is twisted have you ever found out why she is behaving like this...she seems to be a total bitch...the important thing is not to allow this to destroy your faith in human nature, don't you dare give her the satisfaction....smile.
people can sucks sometimes, but don't give up on everyone. I know what ya mean though. I've pretty jneardone that to. It's hard to find out who ur real friends are, and usually the ones u think are most closests are liers
I totally agree with both of you, Goblin and Japanimangel.
Don't let one bad apple spoil the whole bunch. It'll take you a while to trust again if you want to do that, but I think you can trust people and be careful at the same time.
Amen there. Trust has been broken on my end before. It's so hard to return that trust. Once someone lies to you, it's likely they'll lie again and again. All I can say is try and move on from this person, don't even speak to the person. People like this have no clue how badly they hurt people whom they are so close to.
some of the people have two face. when they come to you, they will show you their kindness to you, but when they go to another person, they will tell that person planty of lies about you. this is not a friend. this is just a bidge, who do not know the meaning of friend, secret, trust. she can do this to you, she can do the same to everyone who call as her friends. friendship is great, don't give up on friendship because of the bidge. i agreed that you take the step to block her, but at the same time, you should worn the friend of yours who have contact with her. she can do this to you, she can do the same to others.
It depends. Online friends I don't trust necessarily and if they "betray" me as in turn against me it's really not such a big deal since I never considered us that close in any case. Real life friends, so far I'm pretty convinced I've had good luck and good judgement, I have a few very close friends that I would trust with my life and then I have some friends that I like to go out with, go to the movies or share a hobby with such as music and I don't really let them in, and therrefore they really can't let me down since there is not a huge deal of trust to begin with. You just have to be careful and try and know your friends and, like people say, don't give up if one person lets you down, we're all human, some people may turn out not so nice after all, doesn't mean all people are like that.
It depends on how long I know this person. It doesn'T depend that much on online friendship or "real" friendship. But if you know someone for many years, no matter if via internet or in real life, and then they betray you, then it is really hard, and I totally can understand that.
Well, that is why I trust people to a certain point... then I may discover I was a better friend to them than i thought I was, but it takes me a *long* time to trust someone.... or a long talk..... but I know it hurts.... hope you feel better and recover from this quickly.....
Same here Lou, it takes a while for me, too, and it takes even longer if it is via internet.
I can't stand friends who betray. I've had that happen more than once. Personally I'd much rather go through life with either no friends or one very close friend who I know I can trust then go through life with people who will stab you in the back.
hmm this is old but i feel ya i hate plastic people